Young queer faith and sexuality camp
I was very scared, because I am not confident about stuff and feared they might find fault at our being in the same room together. When the religious personnel found out there were only 2 guys in the room, instead of finding a guy with a girl, they left.
I believe there was another incident of a reforming-style camp in Terengganu state, or someplace else, for guys who dressed up as women (referred to in the Malay slang as ).
It is still a very conservative community, despite of what people say.
So to be gay and Muslim and a Malay requires a lot of tact. For me in my life, I am open to friends and colleagues, but I keep up appearances when I meet other people, as interviewing people is part of my job scope.
I go cruising at KL sauna/spas and the two cruising Lake parks in Kelana Jaya and Tasik Permaisuri in Cheras. I like to describe it as “thriving but we have to keep up with appearances”.
In this sense, I am only “out” with my close friends. Of course in urban areas such as KL, gay men and women can be as out as they want.
Pavilion shopping centre seems to be frequented by much of the liberal gay men of the city, and I heard that the younger set of these men have been seen holding hands at the mall, though I am sure those are isolated cases.
He identifies himself as a liberal Muslim, someone who practices his religion sparingly. So most people at my workplace know about my sexual orientation.
Generally, outside the office I do not portray myself as gay, or at least try to not do so.
I suppose the worst off among the gay community are the transvestites and transgender people in Malaysia, as their appearances are more apparent than their “straight-acting” counterparts.
I have met many and worked with a couple in a theatre troupe I joined while working in Kedah.